Fellas are you PRAYing with her or PREYing on her. Ladies are you laying with him or laboring before the Lord on behalf of your relationship. Most people know they want a mate. Why? Probably because they're lonely. Thoughts of marriage may not occur, but companionship is high on the list of must-haves. Often it's simply to fill a void. Sometimes people are looking for someone to have sex with and gain an immediate "feel-good" ROI-- return on investment. But what exactly has been invested? How much have you actually given to another person. What value is the deposit that has been made in your life? Let's quickly break it down.
THE most valuable investment you can make in your relationship from the start is taking it to God in prayer. It's easy to waste a lot of time in "romance" with a person YOU have chosen but whom God has not chosen for you. As you are submitting your relationship to God in prayer, trust and believe He will reveal to you if the person you're interested in is His best for you. Ladies, if a man is able to pray with you and for you, it reveals his true heart's desires. That's what you want to see above everything else. Fellas if she is able to cover you in prayer now, then she has a greater potential to be able to do so later...as your wife.
No romantic or sexual relationship will fill the void that only God can fill. Often times people feel lonely and want someone else around to decrease those feelings or the amount of time they spend alone. Instead of learning how to be alone, we hop from relationship to relationship seeking something that can never be found in another person. Contentment is what we are seeking and it can only be found in Jesus Christ. Contentment is listed in the dictionary as freedom from worry or restlessness; peaceful satisfaction. According to Philippians 4:11, contentment is learned: "Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content." When you learn to trust God, and allow Him to be Lord over your life, you will be content and fulfilled--even when you are alone.
Prayer creates a solid foundation that invites God into your relationship. When you allow God in, He will strengthen and protect the relationship. You are submitting your plans in exchange for God's plans. It allows God to be in the driver seat of your relationship and you will only go where He wants to take you. Conviction will come quickly and your relationship is less likely to succumb to the temptations that are designed to tear the relationship apart. It will be difficult for a committed Man or Woman of God to fall into sexual sin and continue to pray to God at the same time. Prayer is the ultimate accountability partner!
Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all His righteousness; and all these things will be added unto you." All these things includes companionship and ultimately contentment. Seek God first, through prayer, in every relationship. If you are praying, you will not become the enemies prey!